V(e)ntage of an aspiring woman and wife. The mother in me speaks on Eesa's blog. The activist, feminist and student in me speaks at Unshackled. This is the blog where I put all the different facets of my life together; to realize and appreciate God, Marriage, Relationships, Love and Life.
posted by Shezalldat @ 12:38 AM
I am the stop sign where catchy slogans have been written upon. I am the crack in a mirror that skews all dat is reflected. I am a kelidoscope that shifts at will in character. I am the loose thread in ur fav shirt that you r scared 2 pull. I am da first snow flake dat melts instantly in ur hand. I am an irrational number noone knows n end to.... I'm me! =) I hate being moulded and judged by the general mould.. i am me! I am me and me I shall remain.
21 Comments:
At 3:14 PM,
Anonymous said…
why are u sooooo impressed with the west??ok its better then our pakistan but u are impressed beyond believe-u wear a hijab and talk abt seduction in public-tsk tsk tsk-instead of writing abt how can we all make pak a better u just jotted down all the "not so correct" statements and blogged about! its like making fun of your own kid.dou understand that???? pointing fingers is so convieninet-isnt it?
At 4:48 PM,
Shezalldat said…
hi anon,
firstly, i dont think u get my point - which is fine becoz i don't blog for the pleasure of other's but because i enjoy writing. You have a right to disagree, i have a right to carry on writing. =)
secondly, why is there such a double standard between a hijabi and seduction? It's only a paki who would find the idea of seducing (might i add that the subject here is your very own husband) very shameful. I'm very sorry if it makes u feel uncomfy but i dont think ive done something shameful here. Seducing your husband is infact encouraged in islam, as opposed to the paki perspective of keeping the wife as a docile mindless dimwit for the pleasure of serving his parents. Moreover, it's rather sad when one's mind is rather filthy to conjure up ideas by the mere mention of words that don't rrelate to the action of any given person. ;)
Thiirdly, if i were to write how to make pak better, i think it would start by mentioning how it begins with letting go of warped up mentalities that "people" (quotes emphasized) carry. *smiles*
if the statements are not so correct, i encourage you to use your own blog as a medium to educate people on what is correct. you know how they say, talk the talk, walk the walk! talking is cheap, go ahead and educate ppl on the solutions.
as far as the connection between making fun of my kid and pakistan goes, im sorry i dont follow. if my grandparents didnt live in pak, id probably rip apart and burn up the green passport. I'd never do that to my son.
I tink my main issue is that, pak being a muslim nationis rather a disgrace to islam. hope that helps!
Ciao!
At 9:42 PM,
@}--}-- *Ayesha* --{--{@ said…
i totally agree with you shez, i know someone who believes that if you wear tight jeans under your abaya for the pleasure of your husband then your hijab is invalidated!!! like that makes sense, no one but the man that can see all can see it, so how is it wrong?! Just because a guy is a muslim doesnt mean he doesnt like hot women, and the only woman he is allowed to look at is his wife, so if she doesnt dress up for him, it's not fair! Allah made men like that and its halal for their wife to look good for them, like you said its encouraged. Women like to look good and men like women looking good, and so Allah has given us a halal outlet and I think we should take advantage of it ;)
At 8:15 AM,
Anonymous said…
actually that dint help-sorry.
im my view u just beat about the bush there.if u enjoy writing -good for you-but please write something substantial not how u feel sad abt pakistan not having a victorais secret -hahaha
At 10:31 AM,
Shezalldat said…
rather, mr anon, you're the one beating about the bush! if u have a problem with what i write, you're more than welcome to not read. =) i dont see an obligation here. i promise i wont kill u for not reading abt my dillemmas regarding no victorias secret in pak!! :)
im not sure how my having issues with pakistan means i love the west, but if i happen to livein a nation that helps and lets me be a better person and muslim, then so be it! =)
At 2:24 PM,
Anonymous said…
you sound like one stubborn and arrogant woman -i can choose not to read your blog it wont really be a problemm-but u should learn to respect pakistan.
At 2:28 PM,
Shezalldat said…
unlike paki women, i dont see a reason to bend over backwards to please men. if u call it arrogance and stubborness, so be it. i dont see a reason to respect a nation that doesnt even let others express their feelings much less respect its own values.
aacknowledging the probs of pak is the first step to coming up with soluions. im sorry i wont stop mentioning the probs.
At 2:30 PM,
Anonymous said…
u sound like u are very immature too
At 2:32 PM,
Shezalldat said…
thnx=) since im such a hinderance to your sanity, i hope i wont be seeing u much on this blog!:)
At 2:32 PM,
Anonymous said…
u are just jealous of better standard of living and stylish pakistani women-looks like u had never been abroad before u came to canada or where ever u are-
At 2:36 PM,
Anonymous said…
what gives u the right to talk abt paki women like this??????? u can talk abt standard of education,lack of civic sense,lack of basic ammenities in pakistan.
but please stop ridiculing paksitan the way u do
At 2:47 PM,
@}--}-- *Ayesha* --{--{@ said…
omg shut up, its her blog, if you dont have the mental capacity to understand her level of maturity and comprehension of the world then dont read it, back off and leave her alone, in Canada we have freedom of speech! so shut up!!
At 2:50 PM,
Anonymous said…
"in Canada we have freedom of speech!" OH ohkay i dint know that.but use it in canada only please.
stop visitng pakistan and writing about it too then -ok
At 2:53 PM,
@}--}-- *Ayesha* --{--{@ said…
omg, seriously, dont you have anything better to do? we are both ignoring you from now on!! ok bye bye
At 2:55 PM,
Anonymous said…
talking abt how pakistanis have designer clothes/drivers/girlfriends is not what i call close to being matured,everyone would agree with me.
ya do talk abt issues i mentioned above that will be a matured and intellectual discussion.
At 2:59 PM,
Anonymous said…
may be u saw stylish women in pakistan carrying designer bags or that coach bag u always wanted-
At 3:01 PM,
Anonymous said…
and now are just cant help being jealous and venting it out the way u are
At 3:06 PM,
Anonymous said…
jammie said it just right,"i agree with insiya. i feel you have made generaalizations which are rather typical of pakistanai who go abroad and the feel they have the right to sit and judge".
At 1:08 AM,
Unknown said…
ok mr. i-love-pakistan...i think u just like to hear urself talk.... go be happy in ur pakistan and stop visiting this blog if u have such a problem with it...*rolls eyes*... sheesh..
At 3:13 AM,
@}--}-- *Ayesha* --{--{@ said…
yeah aasiya you go girl!!
At 6:10 PM,
Anonymous said…
props to my friend annonymous.....you put up a good fight...
but there are just too many girls on shezas side
good luck next time
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