Things I often wonder about...

Ever since I've come back from Pakistan somethings really bother me. Here's a list:

- How do women in Pakistan seduce their husbands? Given the lack of La Senza and La vie en Rose and Victoria's Secrets, the only stuff u prolly find there are the granny underwears. How the heck does that work??

- Why do Pakistani women never have time? They have drivers (who not only drive them around, but can run small errands for them as well), gardeners, dhobis (launderers), servants for every lil thing - cooking, cleaning, babysitting, major cleaning like windows etc. They wake up, their bed is made. Their clothes are ironed. The go out, they're driven around. They come back, their food is cooked. What do these women have to do apart from looking pretty??? Yes the social life is extensive, but HOW extensive can it be?

- Why don't pakistanis cherish the fact that they live in a Muslim country? Why arent they proud of their own identity? Why do they need mcdonalds at the airport to proove to the world, we're like you? In their attempt to 'modernise' themselves, they've adopted the western dillemmas as well. My cousin told me stories abt extra marital affairs and abortions and single mothers. I was in a shock! Two of my ex classmates, s and m, are cohabitating. Right now, they are trying to figure out if they are meant for each other. If so, they will get engaged next year. I was flabberghasted when i heard this!! If my friends from here were to move back, theyd be called 'modern', but i know they wouldnt do anything liek that here, much less there!
And since when have marriages been based on sex, anyway? Whatever happened to love, trust etc?

- Why are Pakistani women on two extremes? In their attempt to liberalize themselves, theyve become cheap. One other ex classmate, z, was proudly boasting that since highschool he's had over 45 girlfriends. thats more than one per mnth. and he claims that some of his girlfriends knew that he had another girlfriends at the same time. Whatever happened to dignity? It's a social status to have a boyfriend. EEW!

- Where are the Pakistani parents while all this is happening? *knock knock*

- What are the Pakistani values based on these days? Islam or america or wait, maybe india!?

- Are Pakistani's sleeping while all this is happening? Or are they so desensitized that these things dont even bother them anymore? How come no one talks abt these issues? Or is it one of those issues that are taken within their stride under the flag of being hip and cool?

- how many clothes does an average pakistani woman get stitched in a year? I know of a cousin who gets an outfit for every wedding. all of her clothes are designer labels. and i dont mean just generations or exclusive type boutique labels, these are SERIOUS designer labels. thats hip and all, but what do u do with so many clothes? I mean, I love my clothes and enjoy showing them off every chance i get. seriously, am i missing something here? is it a big no no to wear the same thing again? Living in the west, I have to take serious efforts not to stick to brand name labels (even tho im still very label conscious) and I'm proud of it. Does it not bother ppl there that the only things they wear are brand names while poor cant afford the thread much less the entire outfit theyre wearing?

Signing out,
*~Upset